Anorexia Neurvosa is deliberate and sustained Weight Loss driven by a fear of distorted body image.
Anorexia Nervosa is characterized as:
- An abnormally low body weight.
- (the absence of three consecutive menstrual cycles).
- An intense fear gaining weight or becoming fat and a preoccupation with body weight and shape.
Bulimia nervosa is a cyclical and recurring pattern of binge eating (uncontrolled bursts of overeating) followed by guilt, self-recrimination and overcompensatory behaviour such as crash dieting, overexercising and purging to compensate for the excessive caloric intake.
- “I am basically a bad, unworthy person.”
- “No one would love me as I am.”
- “My needs are never going to be met if I have to depend on others.”
- “Sex is my most important need.”
- Pain agent — First a pain agent is triggered / emotional discomfort (e.g. shame, anger, unresolved conflict). A sex addict is not able to take care of the pain agent in a healthy way.
- Dissociation — Prior to acting out sexually, the sex addict goes through a period of mental preoccupation or obsession. Sex addict begins to dissociate (moves away from his or her feelings). A separation begins to take place between his or her mind and his or her emotional self.
- Altered state of consciousness / a trance state / bubble of euphoric fantasized experience — Sex addict is disconnected from his or her emotions and he or she becomes pre-occupied with acting out behaviours. The reality becomes blocked out/distorted.
- Preoccupation or “sexual pressure” — involves obsessing about being sexual or romantic. Fantasy becomes an obsession that serves in some way to avoid life. The addict’s thoughts become focused on reaching a mood-altering high without actually acting-out sexually. He or she thinks about sex to produce a trance-like state of arousal in order to fully eliminate feelings of the current pain of reality. Thinking about sex and planning out how to reach orgasm can continue for minutes or hours before moving into the next stage of the cycle.
- Ritualization or “acting out.” — These obsessions are intensified through the use of ritualization or acting out. A sex addict first cruises and then goes to a strip show to heighten his or her arousal until he or she is beyond the point of saying no. Ritualization helps to put distance between reality and sexual obsession. Rituals are a way to induce trance and further separate oneself from reality. Once the addict has begun his or her ritual, the chances of stopping that cycle diminish greatly. He or she is giving into the pull of the compelling sex act.
- Sexual compulsivity — The next phase of the cycle is referred to as sexual compulsivityor “sex act”. The tensions that the addict feels are reduced by acting on their sexual feelings. They feel better for the moment, thanks to the release that occurs. Compulsivity simply means that addicts regularly get to the point where sex becomes inevitable, no matter what the circumstances or the consequences. The compulsive act, which normally ends in orgasm, is perhaps the starkest reminder of the degradation involved in the addiction as the person realizes that he or she has become nothing more than a slave to the addiction.
- Despair — Almost immediately reality sets in and the addict begins to feel ashamed. This point of the cycle is a painful place where the Addict has been many, many times. The last time the Addict was at this low point, they probably promised to never do it again. Yet once again, they act out and that leads to despair. He or she may feel he or she has betrayed spiritual beliefs, possibly a partner, and his or her own sense of integrity. At a superficial level, the addict hopes that this will be the last battle.
According to Carnes, for many addicts, this dark emotion brings on depression and feelings of hopelessness. One easy way to cure feelings of despair is to start obsessing all over again. The cycle then perpetuates itself.
Your loved one suffering from Self Injury is suffering on the inside and is in desperate need of the proper help and referral, do not ignore this as REBELLION, OR A PHASE, the relationship between self-harm and suicide is a complex one, as self-harm behaviour may be potentially life-threatening, with or without suicidal intent. However, attributing self harmers as suicidal is, in the majority of cases, inaccurate. Non-fatal self-harm is common in young people worldwide and due to this prevalence the term self-harm is increasingly used to denote any non-fatal acts of deliberate self-harm, irrespective of the intention.
- Cutting of the skin
- Picking of Scabs
- You may notice long sleeve clothing being worn more often/ unexplained scars or bleeding
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Problem gambling is an urge to gamble despite harmful negative consequences or a desire to stop.
Pathological gambling is now defined as explained by a manic episode:
- Preoccupation. The subject has frequent thoughts about gambling experiences, whether past, future, or fantasy.
- Tolerance. As with drug tolerance, the subject requires larger or more frequent wagers to experience the same “rush”.
- Withdrawal. Restlessness or irritability associated with attempts to cease or reduce gambling.
- Escape. The subject gambles to improve mood or escape problems.
- Chasing. The subject tries to win back gambling losses with more gambling.
- Lying. The subject tries to hide the extent of his or her gambling by lying to family, friends, or therapists.
- Loss of control. The person has unsuccessfully attempted to reduce gambling.
- Illegal acts. The person has broken the law in order to obtain gambling money or recover gambling losses. This may include acts of theft, embezzlement, fraud, forgery, or bad checks.
- Risked significant relationship. The person gambles despite risking or losing a relationship, job, or other significant opportunity.
- Bailout. The person turns to family, friends, or another third party for financial assistance as a result of gambling.
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